When love is no more a necessity but just fun

You love a person and the person loves you
and then one day you see him being
attracted towards some other woman -
and comparison comes in.

So he is deserting you;
so he has found somebody who is better than you?
Then has he found somebody who is more beautiful than you?

You may not figure it out so clearly but that's exactly what creates jealousy:
the very idea that somebody can be better, that somebody can be more beautiful,
somebody can attract your man more than you yourself.

That creates a kind of inferiority inside and you start being jealous.
You will create all sorts of hindrances possible to destroy this possibility.

No jealousy is possible only when you have come to accept yourself so utterly that now
there is no comparison; you don't compare yourself with anybody.

Even if your man moves to somebody else it does not create any comparison;
it is just a simple fact that he became attracted to that woman.
It does not bring you into any conflict with the other woman;
it does not say anything about you. If it says anything,
it says something about the man, nothing about you,
it has no reference to you at all.

But that is possible only when you have become so integrated that you can
live without a lover, you can live without being loved and you will be as happy
as when you are being loved, when love is no more a necessity but just fun.

If you are loved, good.
if you are not loved,
perfectly good -
you don't hanker for it.

OSHO - Far Beyond The Stars